Literally no part of this conversation needs to be about sex. And why can’t a straight person overcome their urges to be with the same sex? It’s not choice at all.
Being gay isn’t “feelings and urges”. You wouldn’t say a straight person has “feelings and urges” to be straight, now would you? Anyone who is gay and “overcomes” those “urges” is lying to themselves.
I wonder what Nate would do if he met a lesbian.