My mind is far more than doubled, and I suspect that most peoples’ are as well. I am large; I contain multitudes.
I have a lady in my life whom I love and respect, and I’m also totally hot for her. Yet that doesn’t mean I’m blind to the attractions of other women; I like looking at them, and if it’s in a context where they like being looked at, what’s wrong with that?
My lady enjoys watching movies where Hugh Jackman takes his shirt off. Or the glimpse of an attractive male bum. Is that incompatible with loving and respecting men? Of course not.
Physical desire, emotional connection, and intellectual compatibility all play their parts in the Interplay Between the Sexes.
Go watch “The Full Monty”; get some perspective.