IrishEddie - I get that, and I fully understand your point on wanting to change. (How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one – but the bulb has to want to change!) I teach how to give feedback and development to businesspeople. But if someone can’t even admit they are addicted (one of the classic symptoms, as I suspect you are fully aware), then they’re not going to be able to want to change. My dad described himself once as “not an alcoholic - an alcohol-dependent.” Sigh. He did manage to reduce his intake towards the end of his life, for reasons too complex to go into, and I think it probably gave him a few extra years. I think we’re talking about different aspects.
I respectfully disagree on the “dole” issue. They once checked on the number of “welfare cheats” so beloved of Reaganites, and found less than one percent. Also, the way it is set up discourages people - going from scraping by with welfare to making less from a job. If we implemented work-welfare plans, which have been squelched in the past by Republicans, I think it would work better.
IrishEddie - I get that, and I fully understand your point on wanting to change. (How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one – but the bulb has to want to change!) I teach how to give feedback and development to businesspeople. But if someone can’t even admit they are addicted (one of the classic symptoms, as I suspect you are fully aware), then they’re not going to be able to want to change. My dad described himself once as “not an alcoholic - an alcohol-dependent.” Sigh. He did manage to reduce his intake towards the end of his life, for reasons too complex to go into, and I think it probably gave him a few extra years. I think we’re talking about different aspects.
I respectfully disagree on the “dole” issue. They once checked on the number of “welfare cheats” so beloved of Reaganites, and found less than one percent. Also, the way it is set up discourages people - going from scraping by with welfare to making less from a job. If we implemented work-welfare plans, which have been squelched in the past by Republicans, I think it would work better.