Zen Pencils by Gavin Aung Than for January 11, 2016
Certainly, the most destructive vice that a person can have, more than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins… …is self-pity. Self-pity will destroy relationships. It will destroy anything that’s good. It will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. It is so simple to imagine that one is hard done by and that things are unfair. DING DONG That one is under-appreciated. And that if only one had a chance at this or if only one had a chance at that… …things would have gone better. I almost wanted once to publish a self-help book saying… HOW TO BE HAPPY by Stephen Fry GUARANTEED SUCCESS! MOVING ON SO SHE LEFT YOU COPING WITH HEARTBREAK LOVE HURTS And people would buy this huge book… …and the first page would just say… Stop feeling sorry for yourself and you will be happy. Use the rest of this book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings. And that’s what the book would be. And it would be true. It sounds like “Oh, that’s so simple.” But, of course, it’s not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s bloody hard. - Stephen Fry
I think self-pity is sometimes legitimate. But the subject needs to know that the rest of the world may not notice or be able to respond and he still needs to get on with living.